Saturday, November 13, 2004

ENTJ woman like me...

Many NT types feel alone in the world at times. Given their relatively small numbers in the population, this is not surprising. NT females have a particularly difficult time in many instances: INTJ women are estimated at 1-2% of the population in some studies, while ENTJ women have it only slightly better at 2 - 4%. (Source: Charles Martin) While Martin's numbers vary slightly from Kiersey's, by either calculation, it's a small group.

The ENTJ female may find it difficult to select a mate who is not overwhelmed by her strong personality and will. (My husband reminds me of this all the time.)

Whoopi Goldberg and Sigourney Weaver are fellow ENTJ women.

Clearly, gender issues are especially significant for ENTJ females. As a type, their arrogant, confrontational manner and need for control can appear to be quite "unwomanly" to others. Efforts by parents and others to mold them into more traditional female images are usually met with rebellion. Other women usually resent the arrogance of ENTJ females may unwittingly find herself to be a loner, something particularly difficult for Extraverts.

Of course, the problem intensifies for the ENTJ female when dealing with men, even male ENTJs. Their demanding, objective, competent, and independent nature is not particularly endearing to most men. These qualities may obscure the fact that ENTJ females can be quite nurturing and caring. For them, femininity is not defined by traditional roles. It is reflected in the total involvement and commitment they bring to each moment of life.

Relaxation does not come easily to most ENTJs and when it does, it is only because it has been scheduled. Even then it is viewed as one more assignment to master, and ENTJs attack such challenges with zeal and complusiveness. (!!!)


Blogger MW said...

I'm an ENTJ woman, too.

7:39 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I'm an INTJ woman. On the one hand, it doesn't bother me to be alone like it bothers the ENTJ. But on the other hand, then men don't see my independent, controlling personality coming. It shocks them when it finally gets unleashed and they don't know what to do. They either run away or try to change me.

4:07 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Amen! As an ENTJ woman, I schedule yoga, meditation, and reading self-improvement books so I can develop my sensing, feeling, and perception functions. Otherwise, I have 'bossy manager' written on my forehead everywhere I go. Don't get me started with getting recruited to participate in catfights over the role of alpha female. I don't have a lot of patience for men who are insecure in their masculinity or themselves in general and demand an intelligent, forthright woman and then say she's not feminine for being so. I live for NT men who say I'm a breath of fresh air from all the flakes, that finaly they've met a woman who can think for herself, hold her own in an intellectual conversation, and knows what she wants. I click with INTJ men in a heartbeat, whenever I meet them; we engage in philosophical discussions for hours and enjoy it like a vacation. I get along better with men and was playing basketball with the boys when my female peers spent hours primping in the bathroom. I'll dress up when it's appropriate (the office, holidays, dates), but I'm told I think a lot more like a man than like a woman. When you put me in a room with a bunch of strangers, I end up in conversation with physicians, lawyers, engineers, and researchers - the intellect attracts them and repels everyone else. The first woman I got along well with in the workplace was an African American social justice advocate. Our friendship bonded in seconds.

3:40 PM  
Blogger Dr IJC said...

I am also an ENTJ woman and I wouldn't change it for the world. I would however like to see the world recognize our value!!

10:58 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am also an ENTJ woman. I find many ppl who don't know me well always think I am not feminine but tough and too cold. Anyhow, I don't think I am like that but they are not highly theoritical like me. It's quite hard for me to find a nice guy who can match with my standard (even my ex husband) but I can get along very well with my ex colleagues who now work in regional level.

1:53 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am currently being divorced by an "ENTJ" woman after 5 years of marriage and significant dating time. As an "INFP", I should have been more aware of the signs and her direct signals early on in our courtship, that she would seek to control, dominate,manipulate and eventually cause our marriage to become a fatality.
The sad thing is that with my tendency to be forever loyal and deeply invested emotionally with someone, I was really hit blindside by her intensiveness and absolute dictatorial ways.
Some family members caught on quick and tried to persuade me to not marry her, but I think it was the passionate sex early on??? I really don't know what burning desire attracted me to this woman and to blindly invest a everything of myself in this relationship .

4:09 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

" who say I'm a breath of fresh air from all the flakes, that finaly they've met a woman who can think for herself, hold her own in an intellectual conversation, and knows what she wants."

Being an ENTJ I hear the exact same thing. I click best with INTJ's, too. I love how they stimulate my mind. I get bored quickly with a man who can't keep up with me.

To the INFP who posted above me. Don't take this personal, but it takes two. You said that you should've listened to others. Try working on your Thinking side and maybe you'll avoid getting into another one-sided feeling relationship where you felt you're needs were not meant. Hopefully she will work on her feeling side.

Thing is, us ENTJ women don't mean to be insensitive. Being sensitive doesn't come as easily and natural to us as it does to you. It takes a conscious effort. I do try to work on it. The more you may have demanded(hopefully didn't whine) from her the more she probably rebelled. My point is try to be a little more rational. Good thing you got out, so now it's time to move on. Everything negative or positive is a learning experience. Find something that you can take away from that relationship to make you a better person.

Because of my insensitivity I have been called harsh. Which of course doesn't hurt my feelings.
Just because I look "sweet and innocent" doesn't mean you're going to offend me. haha In fact, offending an ENTJ woman is about impossible.

My parents always say, Pitty the poor man that marries me.


Power to all the ENTJ women.

10:55 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

As an INTP man...I bet an ENTJ woman would make a great dominatrix.

8:32 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Also an ENTJ woman + Mensan... but also young, petite, thin & curvy.... so even though I attract men none of them can sustain a conversation or I get the "you're intimidating" if I use a 3 syllable word.. *sigh* so I died my hair blond to confuse them even more ;-)

10:25 AM  
Blogger Martin K. Schreder said...

The bit about scheduled relaxation made me smile.. We are all so alike.. and so different from everybody else =)

3:13 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

It's so odd how much I see ENTJs and INTJs thrown into the same arena - and I mean that positively... it's really neat. I'm an INTJ chick who happened to snag an ENTJ guy, and it was an instananeous bond.. which, as we know, is just really effing weird for any INTJ/ENTJ since... as long as either of those two types can remember. We both just recently discovered this kind of personality typing, and it was a shock to read such accurate descriptions of.. well, US.
We're used to a lot of questions and animosity - definitely not things like answers and understanding. It's been really great just.. knowing we actually fit into real and sincere CATEGORIES! hahahaha Just for this once, y'know?
I am very, very fond of my ENTJ, I just want everyone out there to know that.. he is brilliant, ambitious, strategic (and I don't care what anyone says - that is NOT a bad thing!), imaginative, tender, and absolutely hilarious. I wouldn't trade him for anything. Here's an INTJ who says ENTJS ARE GODSENDS!!!!

6:50 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Eureka! These comments ring so true to me I'm almost in tears. I took the MB test many years ago and was typed ESTJ. I thought "yeah, OK, that'll work". Recently, though (while undergoing a mid-life career evaluation), I realized that I was "misdiagnosed". I'm an ENTJ. Actually, I'm the ENTJ poster child.

While I've managed to be fairly successful in a male-dominated field, my love life stinks. I'm somewhat attractive and don't have trouble getting dates, but I somehow seem to attract INFPs who are attracted to my "strength". At first, I find their "sensitivity" endearing. But, after a while, he thinks I'm a bitch and I think he's a wuss. I've gone thru one husband and numberous boyfriends. It sounds like I need to be on the lookout for INTJs. Comments?

11:59 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I was wondering what the best ay to turn on an ENTJ woman is? Most of you are ENTJ so what do you like?

6:30 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

What a great blog. I am an ENTJ and it was very eye opening to learn about my personality type. I didn't realize why exactly I turned people off, I was just trying to be open and positive and work toward the greater good; and I met with resistance from both men and women. I'm glad to be an ENTJ, and the insight has taught me to tune in more to my feelings and the feelings of others. Love the blog! Thanks!

2:43 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am an ENTJ, and everything I have read here rings so true for me as well. People find me cold and heartless at times, and I do have feelings but I am certainly not going to openly express them to everyone. I'm a college student studying abroad, and I must say - it has been hard. Most of the girls stay away from me, and many of the guys are simply boring. I get along the best with the teachers and staff, who are significantly older than me. The conversations I have with them are so interesting! But I hate the fact that I can't connect with people my own age though, and finding a boyfriend is even more difficult. Most guys are turned off by my being so opinionated, and the ones who aren't scared just can't hold a decent conversation! Is it honestly that difficult to find someone to be with? I feel so alone when I'm not working - it's miserable. I think the problem is that I simply refuse to settle for just anyone - but where is the person I don't have to settle for? Is this personality type simply doomed (as my mother claims I am) to die alone?

1:02 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Okay I am with you all on most of your points about being a ENTJ. I believe ENTJ is the best selection for any person. I am pretty sure i originally was a ENTP but my NT told me that to be successful in this world i need to be organized. I am not saying that it is not hard to be a woman and an ENTJ but we have to remember that this is just the way the world turns. So many men mistake us for dominating bitches when in reality we are just in it to win it like so many others. So in order to change the way people think about ENTJ women we need to stop focusing on our differences and start ignoring those who try to call us out on being ourselves. I think it is the P in me, but i have learned to go with the flow when i have to, share the wealth when need be, just because that is what the big picture calls for. Instead of instinctively pushing back when someone says you are being too demanding or dominating, just ignore it and go about your business like normal. It is the women who end up fighting for the sake of fighting that make our ENTJ reputation the way it is. Eventually, as history has shown before us, our personality will blend in and be accepted. It just takes time and acceptance.

10:39 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

It's so interesting reading everyone's comments as an ENTJ woman myself. I have to say it's been comforting to see that ENTJ's are attracted to strong men. I think this explains why often times I develop feelings for older men, partly because they've managed to get their stuff together in their life and aren't threatened by the strong vision ENTJ's often have. ANyway great comments.

7:39 PM  
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8:34 PM  
Anonymous Hot Mama ENTJ said...

I'm an ENTJ woman who is partnered with an INTP. According to the we are an optimal match! Yeah! I'm an 8 on the ennegram and he is a 5 - again we apparently make a great match - both power, brains, action and forethought.
My best friend is a female INFP - I find working in a female dominated career, filled with Sensing Juding types (SJ) has robbed me a bit of my self-esteem because I have been told I am not a team-player, too abrasive and too confrontational. However, I now realize those are my very strengths also.
Friendship-wise, it has been difficult to sustain long, meaningful and intellectually stimulating relationships with Feeling type women. I'm a go-getter and strategic and great at organizing complex events with flair and flawless execution.
Sadly, I need to get my needs outside of work, but I did resent for a long time the inability of SJ, feeling types to afford me the understanding that I can give them. ( I give them affirmations and appreciation and tone down my intensity when interacting with them)

I love, love love my NT and NF friends who I can be more fully myself around.

Anyhoo, that's my two bits worth, and I'm not a bitch, I'm just extremely capable, effective and confident.

12:56 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hmm I just took the test and found out I'm ENTJ funnily enough my ex liked me cos i had a lot to say in philosophy lessons (and I liked him for the same reason) but when I was with him I tried to be less bossy and got dumped after a month, now I'm confused as to whether i did the right thing. Although I really don't care I've never felt like I needed a mate and my relationship based on philosophical argument with this guy interests me far more than any sexual component. Hmmmmmmm, looks like i should prefer for a life alone.

4:43 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hmm I just took the test and found out I'm ENTJ funnily enough my ex liked me cos i had a lot to say in philosophy lessons (and I liked him for the same reason) but when I was with him I tried to be less bossy and got dumped after a month, now I'm confused as to whether i did the right thing. Although I really don't care I've never felt like I needed a mate and my relationship based on philosophical argument with this guy interests me far more than any sexual component. Hmmmmmmm, looks like i should prefer for a life alone.

4:43 PM  
Anonymous Igor said...

I am an INTp man, and ladies, I feel for you. It is always the feeling of not being with the right person, having to compromise, never being able to be yourself, etc.
You have to find yourself a complementary (E/I, J/P) NT man. It is a bliss being with someone that is like you while complementing each other at the same time.

11:39 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

ENTJ ladies please find an INTP man. Married 12 years and still we totally get each other when nobody else does. The J/P difference adds spice and you will appreciate that he has the amazing ability to look at ever angle and is such a wealth of information. Keeps it always interesting.

5:34 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am so glad I found this site.
I was misdiagnosed as ESTJ at first.
I was also thinking of taking a philosophy class.

Everything sounds soooo familiar.

3:23 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Truly a great site...I would have thought I myself wrote most of the comments....really strange but yet so comforting....I was beginning to think i was the lone female entj in the world...thanks everyone...i feel better now...and now i know i'm not nuts....we all are :-).... in very very good ways!!! thank you again to everyone that blogged!!

10:26 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

As an ENTJ female I love how my INTP husband is full of knowledge, perceptive, analytical, fair-minded. I find our conversations very intellectually stimulating. I also value his opinions on business ideas - he's my natural advisor.
For him, I provide structure and social stimulation (e.g., I get him to get out of the house with me!) and I can hold my own against his arguments. He happily stays at home but I need more time to recharge socially, so in that way we spend time a part. We do have activities that we do exclusively with each other which we find is enough to anchor our relationship emotionally.

11:59 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I'm an ENTJ female as well.

Having taken the test several times in different places over the years, I suddenly started to take notice two weeks ago. All the character traits make sense. It's been an epithany. But still doesn't help when my female line manager blocks my every move due to her own insecurities and calls me 'bossy'.

We are wonderfull creatures, it is completely illogical that not enough people recognise this fact. And I am always right and never take the straight easy path. I'm out and proud and refuse to conform.

3:42 PM  
Blogger Windihari said...

My IN/STP husband was the first to tell me I was a control freak. It seems I thought I was more of a warm make you feel at home kind of person . . . but that was something I had to concentrate really hard on.
My whole life respected people have been telling me what is wrong with me (my ESTP mom didn't like how I moved all the furniture to clean a room--my ISFJ first husband hated how I was always playing devil's advocate and making him feel like the woman in the relationship, my ISTJ sister was always wondering why I was over analyzing and categorizing things, and my ENFP brother said I need to let other people have their say even if it is totally inane). I have been listening because I was trying to do the "right thing." But realizing after I got "laid off" for telling the ENFJ boss what was inefficient and confusing about her business' vision statement, I began to realize that most people are very uncomfortable with my strong opinions and how readily I share them. I was shocked! So now that I am embracing that I am an ENTJ and not an ENFP can anyone tell me why my house is NEVER clean?!!! And why is there never enough hours in a day/days in the week to get done what I want to get done? And is it common for ENTJs to always be late because they always think they can squeeze in one more 45 minute job in 15 minutes?

7:55 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Growing up as an ENTJ child was not easy - coming of age as an ENTJ woman was also not the norm. I wouldn't change my personality but would have liked our unique qualities to be given a fair shake. Now that I have hit my middle years, I have learned not to apologize, or try to be something I'm not. The world probably needs more ENTJ women - too bad that we have empowered society to label us rather than celebrate us as the unique and amazing women that we are.

10:54 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Where are all the ENTJ women? Im an ENTJ guy and sometimes cant handle most girls. I would love to have a women with the same mindset as me. They consider my attitude as leader among men kinda pompous. I have brave ideas for a relationship but it always get sabotaged by outside influences. Kinda wish I could get fly away with my love to a deserted island sometimes. If I had one. Love and Island Oh well...

7:22 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I'm a young ENTJ as well.

I am SO SO happy I stumbled on this blog. I just became interested in personality types a little over a year ago, and I think it is safe to say I've fallen in love. You don't know how good it feels to read everyone's comments about what other ENTJ women think, feel, and go through. For so long, I felt 'different', although I never really discussed this with anyone...except maybe my mother (who happens to be an INTJ).

In previous relationships I was called 'bossy', 'the boss', and simply too 'in control'. Talking this into consideration, I started writing more in the nights, going for jogs, taking yoga... anything that could calm down my mind, cool my need to control, and my need to analyze EVERYTHING!

Truly, I was starting to give up hope on findng someone with whom I was truly happy with. The funny thing about being alone to me was that noone ever belived I was single. As ENTJ's we are, by nature, 'put together', organized, and charismatic, so I never had a problem meeting people and getting them to like me... shit that's easy.. but keeping them due to my overpowering nature was always something that was difficult for me.

The most difficult thing for ENTJ's as over achievers, I think, is that to truly get along with someone in a relationship we have to really really work at it... For me anyway. I find this particularly difficult because usually I so good as everything I do without even trying, and if I do need to work at anything, or put in solid time, effort or passion into a project, then I ALWAYS get results... yet with my relationships I always never do, which is very frustrating to say the least.

I had almost given up hope, as I mentioned, until I met the guy I am with now... Nearly a month and a half ago I met an ENTJ guy (which I thought was something nothing short of a myth). I knew they existed, but our type is so rare I figured the chances of meeting one were slim to none. Yet I did.

So far it's been GREAT! Although, I have noticed his need to control, even ME, who is herself a controller!! That worries me a little bit.. but the best part about us is that WE SPEAK THE SAME LANGUAGE. Honestly if I had written this post a few months ago, I would have written it as a bitter, cynical 22 years old who was completely frustrated by her ENTJness.

I've always loved my type... but I do find it can be stressful at times finding that you do flounder around in a sea wher not alot of individuals speak the way you speak. In turn, I find I end up repeating things alot.

I also agree with previous posts that have mentioned how our type is not traditionally 'female'. I've always felt more mentally male growing up.

The only thing that worries me now, in terms of my new relationship is that I just wont be able to 'cut it' in one. I've been in relationships in the past, but nothing too serious, and they almost always ended badly.
Are ENTJs destin to be alone.. in the end? Honestly, sometimes I still feel that I can't deal with the whole relationship thing... maybe that's just me and not an ENTJ thing...

Regardless, my new man has taught me that we are NOT alone! :):)

9:08 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hi I'm an INTJ man and my close female friend is an ENTJ, Though I'm very independent even tend to be authority independent.We argue a lot.Philosophy, science,politics we discuss everything & always headstrong on our respective ideas...... still I love being controlled & under charge of my her.....Can anybody tell me is this true for other ENTJ/INTJ relationships..she is a GOD-GIFTED ANGEL for me...IRRESISTIBLE

12:10 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am INFP male, married 8 years to ESTJ female. We get along mostly, through alot of understanding.

I thought the more control I give her the happier we will be, now she has 99% and wants all, and I see no way forward. I loved her with all I got, but that dont mix oil and water any time.

To you young ENTJ, anyone can find love, whatever your type, but for some matches, it takes everything you got to keep it alive. And sometimes love just ain't enough.

3:54 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

This all sounds very frustrating, but try being an INTP man looking for a ENTJ woman.

10:40 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am an ENTJ and i believe that this is the best personality :) Really though, i do find it hard to explain my emotions and how i feel at times. However i do hide my emotions very well. Does anyone else have that issue?

1:09 AM  
Anonymous Lewis said...

I'm an INTP male and an ENTJ female would be the best match for me. I haven't found anyone that can keep up with the eccentric idea's that keep coming from my head as well as my off-beat humor. An ENTJ would be able counter-balance that. Its just really hard to find an ENTJ female given that only 2-4% of the population is ENTJ.

12:46 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Look these comments about overbearing wives indicates little self-awareness, not being an ENTJ. I'm only 24 and yet I've spent far more time contemplating how I need to value personal relationships, and what types of relationships will make me happy and how I respect them (and yep, I'm an ENTJ). I'm a huge "pleaser" - it crushes if I'm in any way responsible for unhappiness in a friend or partner.

And I've taken the professional MBTI test at business school, so nope, not a "feeler" but that doesn't mean I can't recognize human need and emotions.

10:46 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I'm an ENTJ woman who does have difficulty in friendships with other women, but I'm usually closely bonded to ISTJ or INTJ men. My husband is ISTJ, and I also consider him to be a great friend as well. It's helpful that he was raised by a strong woman, perhaps an ENTJ herself. It's wildly liberating to be in a relationship with a man who is not intimdated by or competitive with me.

1:50 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Alight this is seriously making my night!!! Its so nice to hear about everyone who plans relaxation time-if you even remember what it is half the time- and the fact that we all have this unending need to be social naturally, but are so off putting to EVERYONE. Its so hard to have a decent conversation and like someone said even harder being a ENTJ girl finding a guy. I just recently met an INTJ and while I've tried to pick every aspect apart, I'm having a fantastic time flirting and I'm kinda falling

6:56 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I've currently found myself in the ENTJ category but am only very slightly more extroverted than introverted. As time goes on I think I may eventually just slide into INTJ-ism. I mention that because it might slightly have something to do with what I'm going to say next. I am all for feeling empowered as an ENTJ woman but reading through these posts I am struck by the tone... I think it is possible to be ENTJ while still allowing some room for humility. As driven as we are towards success, we should recognize that part of the game is being humble enough not to be offputting to other people. If you have not learned that by now and are in fact making it a badge of honor I would question the true extent of your intelligence and ability to think long-term, as ENTJs are known to do. Social intelligence is sometimes as important as your IQ. Just a thought.

10:01 PM  
Blogger Not2bforgot10 said...

I am an ENTJ woman, as well and quite the "alpha." I seem to strangely be attracted to more feminine, ie: softer, gentler men :P In terms of women, I seem to be attracted to extroverts, and for some reason, I tend to attract a LOT of ESFP's LOL (I am unsure how I feel about this). I had an excellent relationship with an ENFJ woman although we butt heads at times with our stubbornness and need to "prove" the other right. I believe I can have a successful relationship with an FJ type, but am open to other types as well. I would be interested in talking with other people, especially other ENTJ's who share a passion for the MBTI. If you would like to discuss the MBTI, please add me to facebook with a personal note attached so I do not delete you by default: Emily Anne Cox

I am a life/motivational coach focused on career and networking with a few long-term interests, ie: MBTI, Enneagram, etc.

4:33 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

it is so cool to read about other ENTJ women, we are a rare breed!
I just want to say that this year I made friends with an INFP and she really changed me. She taught me to be more in touch with my feelings, to give her space and to appreciate our differences.
I beleive that these two types can make a great match as long as each loves and respects the differences.
I think we ENTJs have to be very careful not to let our career oriented minds and independent personalities prevent us from having a great relationship with our children and husbands.

6:25 AM  
Anonymous Econgirl said...

I'm an ENTJ female college student and I've found it almost impossible to date, and somewhat challenging to make friends. It's challenging when most people my age have no realistic goals or ambitions for themselves, and all they ever want to do is entertain themselves with the inane. Where are some good environments to find more people like myself? I think my college may be too small...

8:07 PM  
Anonymous amber said...

iNTJ woman. College student, the only female in my MBA group, and the youngest person there as well. At every feedback session I am told to be less assertive. Recently a professor told me, and I quote, "the guys are terrified by you". That just made my day!

3:40 AM  
Anonymous Dr ENS said...

Want to attract an ENTJ? Speak your mind, don't back down, listen to what we're saying, and don't give in ALL the time. We respect someone that can stand up to us. If you give in all the time, we'll take you for granted, or, worse yet, lose interest and grow to despise you. Just sayin'.

I love my INTJ hubby-he doesn't take all my crap, digs in his heels if he's not moving, but lets me organize and plan to my heart's content. We're both career oriented and passionate about our jobs and son.

The best thing an ENTJ can find is a friend to tell them how to be more emotionally in-tune in a logical format. We don't understand feelings just because. We need numbers and concrete reasoning on why to do something and how it will benefit us or our work. That person will be treasured above all others in the ENTJ world.

12:36 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am an ENTJ female and surprisingly I am rather well-liked amongst my peers. I have a very people-oriented side to me and I enjoy being around people, just like an extrovert would. no one has ever told me to my face that they are intimidated by my opinions or direct or openness. I am known to be very open once you know me, but i don't have "bossy manager" written all over my face. I am rather warm and intelligent and I love being in a learning environment. I have enjoyed intellectual conversations with guys and those are the types that I am attracted to, "NTs" I think not all ENTJ females are that bad. I don't really like to be in charge of situations unless I have to but people have told me I would be a good leader.

5:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Uh.. yea. All of the above comments extoling the virtues of the ENTJ woman, BY the ENTJ women only prove one damn thing; you guys are the most arrogant group of twats on the planet. Damn stop congratualting yourselves for being masters of the universe, will ya??? I've been married to one of you love puppies for 15 years, I should know how you all are. Life is a bitch when you're married to a ...... nasty bitch!!

7:54 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am an ENTJ woman, but my strongest qualifier is N, so I'm actually pretty easy going, compared to most people in this group. As for dating, I simply went out with the first guy who ever had the guts to actually ask me out. Nobody ever asked me out before him. When I ask my male friends why that is, they say that I'm scary to approach even though I'm much more inclined to actually talk to strangers than most of my female friends. I guess I just have a mean looking face. Anyways, we've been dating for three years now and he's absolutely perfect. I got really lucky to find a guy who's so patient with my craziness, since I get pretty psychotic at times. Unexpectedly, he's an INTP since he has more guts than any other guy I've ever met.

7:20 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I'm an ENTJ girl and this just made me smile. I've always felt like a bit of an outsider. Thank goodness one of my classmates is also a female ENTJ. We speak the same language! What are the chances of such a discovery? It's quite tiny. Then again, I've found my classmates to be very atypical. Perhaps it's because we're a gifted class. We're almost bound to have the 1%. I find it strange that a previous INFP male has had such trouble with his ENTJ. I work well with INFP guys.

8:07 PM  
Blogger Ross Kay said...

Don't be anon, then someone can find you ;)

3:23 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I was in a relationship for 7yrs with my ex entj, I'm an infj, things were good because we were alike in ideals and worked well together as long as i made a compromise...7yrs of compromising..i ended up having to end it, because she found an intp..this made me very angry, but happy in the same..this was a dom/dom type relationship with no budge. Her motives were either well planned and cunning, or just plain opportunistic impulse. Infp works because they are submissives looking for a master. ENTJ women are perfect dominatrixes, but you better be the best at what you are doing...i diagnosed her unofficially with narcissism, because early in her life she was starved of proper love. She was an angry, rebellious, cunning and Wiley girl who cut down men who bowed even an inch. She never had a father concretely, and still worships my devotion and dedication as a father. I have tested as an infp but i am just a infj with really developed feelings, from having an esfj mother with ptsd..

2:33 PM  
Blogger simplybeautyful said...

where have you been all my life?!
I'm enjoying reading this post. i just find out that i'm an ENTJ woman, and i realized now why i have always find it hard to relate to other women.

This is a breath of fresh air!

4:17 PM  
Anonymous Samantha said...

This is amazing to read all the comments. I think because it is so rare in females, I have been left feeling that it was me who needed to change. I felt that I wasn't doing something right which is why I didn't click with people.

Now I realize that it isn't me, it is just my personality and that there are others out there like me.

When in relationship, I have found that most people need to hear "thank you" and "you did a great job". I don't personally need to hear those things, I like to judge my own work (I do it harshly), but others really need it. Sometimes it feels like I'm going overboard with it and it is uncomfortable but I have noticed people have started responding better to me.

I also have learned that vocalizing reassurance helps things a lot. If I'm talking to someone and they are afraid to give their opinion because they don't want me to criticize it, I have to reassure them that I won't and that I really care what they have to say and just want the best outcome. I don't like to have to do things twice. I'm totally a team player but I can't stand when people move really slow. I have started counting in my head so that I don't rush them to finish things.

I also need to work on not getting mad when people are unable to see my perspective on things. It frustrates me so much when stuff doesn't click as fast or when I can see how the puzzle pieces fit together but others can't. I met an INTP who is helping me with this. I have been watching his interaction with others and I'm trying to learn how to handle those type of situations the way he does.

Tip to guys who are looking for an ENTJ woman: don't back down. For me, it isn't about winning the argument. I just want to be sure all sides of the debate are covered and that I have learned something by the end of it. If I'm doing 99.9% of the talking, I get kinda irritated. I value what you have to say even if I pick it apart.

Another tip: don't take things personally. I don't mean to degrade or invalidate people I just like to speak directly so that there isn't any misconceptions. Misconceptions halt progress.

Final tip: don't think that we don't love you. I find myself not saying "I love you" as much as I see others doing it. If I'm interested in you, then I'm 100% with you. If I'm not, I'll be sure to let you know. I also appreciate the things you do even if I don't tell you.

I met an INTJ two years ago and couldn't believe how well we clicked. It was something I have never felt before. He is completely on my level. I can yell at him and be extremely harsh and he doesn't care. He does the same thing to me. We have excelled at a lot of projects we have taken on. I never really connected with girls throughout my school years but then I got to college and I met an ENTJ girl. I've never had a friend like her before. She just gets life the way I do. She has the same values as well. I have met two INTP's and they are great guys. I know they are my ideal match on paper and I can see why but I'm not in a rush to tie myself to a guy just yet. There is a lot to do in the world.

To my fellow ENTJ women: We are awesome and should never feel like we don't belong in the world. Don't get frustrated, just keep being you and recognize that it takes a special guy to love us.

1:27 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Yes, and an ENTJ woman, learn to value yourself for your strengths and work on your deficits enough to have people be open to listening to you. Our society currently is a lot harsher on women then men, and since ENTJ women don't fit the stereotypical female type, they get the brunt of scorn, which is unfair. As an ENTJ female, I have found my most enjoyable relationships have been with other N types, NT and NF's. However, quirky, strong, direct, intelligent, and outgoing people of all types usually get my attention.

6:12 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Yes, as an ENTJ woman, learn to value yourself for your strengths and work on your deficits enough to have people be open to listening to you.

Our society currently is a lot harsher on women than men in general, and since ENTJ women don't fit the stereotypical female type, they get the double brunt of scorn, which is unfair. As an ENTJ female, I have found my most enjoyable relationships have been with other N types, NT and NF's. However, quirky, strong, direct, intelligent, and outgoing people of all types usually get my attention.

6:14 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

this blog almost brought me to tears. really happy to know there are lots of ENTJ women out there who feel the same way.
here's a facebook group to keep the conversation going!!!

12:03 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

intp guy here.i have been into mbti for a quite long time now.though i do not take mbti as reference for understanding me exactly but do know that it has helped me in knowing social dynamics as it may have helped in knowing better ways in which we can come to terms in a given situation involved with different kinds of people altogether

i believe that entj/estj has lot of similarities(as i had a wonderful estj female friend)though i see entj to be more capable of interpreting things around the world in better ways than most other people.(as something which is more neutral viewpoint on most of the issues).

personally i have identified few people to be entj with whom i definitely seen a tendency to develop throughout their lives a strong perspective on whats happening generally around them though they may not be experts in a single field(in india,i have seen them most in journalism)

as an intp,i believe we tend to gain an expertise in any field to such levels that its activity has its effects on the world in the larger scale tremendously that it completely changes the way we looked around.

so entj will always be attracted to intp in the sense that entj who holds such a strong perspective on general categories of things is being challenged by intp who almost questions everything(literally!!!!!).

entj have very strong personalities and if anyone could challenge them in their chosen field(whether psychology,physics,economics,computing....even arts)would be highly admired by them as entj is very independent in ways to handle emotions and ways to connect to the world.

i do see entj to be opinionated when they are young but they are also the ones who boldly face what they stood for till now openly(extroversion) and able to correct themselves with whom they had completely rejected(impersonal)without even forgiving that person.this is generally considered to be male trait(atleast here)which is not liked usually by males(especially who are not tough enough and flexible enough to change their mindset thrust upon on gender role expectations)

as an intp guy,society usually sees upon us to be more feminine than masculine as we tend to more thoughtful(as opposed to just act from whatever you know in whatever ways)and plasticity(as opposed to being loyal to an idea or a belief for a collective or grouped differentiation which is mostly seen in boys for successful team formation)for which therefore by default boys lack the capacity in their early ages to differentiate themselves and therefore develop their individuality.

though it is very difficult for both intp and entj to be aware of their feelings and therefore also of whether they can be any compatibility at all within them in any sense whatsoever,one thing is for sure that both are very simplistic of their ideals of a partner though they may look for someone whom they could just do what everyone around them may never understand(literally!!!!),so on basis of this to what degree you aspire to something in you and also to be in others altogether,make a decision based on various parameters you have set.

2:39 AM  
Anonymous Abby said...

ENTJ Female age 26. Wow! Amazing. Can totally see why I haven't had a lot of success with dating. Seems like I find men either too sensitive and not challenging enough or a bit wierd... Definitely this has not been helped by my blunt and insensitive nature. Nice to see there are others out there who face the same issues.

So where d we find INTP men?? ;)

7:54 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

is there any entj woman in india here?

5:54 AM  
Blogger beautyoflife said...

I am an ENTJ woman that just got out of a relationship with an INTJ male. It was the longest relatiobship I was in. He intrigued me with his different view on things. The problem was he thought I was a "bitch" because of my drive to get things done. He also wanted a sweet girl who would take his advice without debate. As an entj woman, I do not take advice unless I have some evidence that it may work. He did not like that he had to debate his point and was unhappy. His loss. I still have hope, but I am not looking for a new relationship. If I stay single so be it.

9:11 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I was wondering does anyone else feel like they are in between J-P. I am a ENTJ but there is no question that P is in the MIX.

2:39 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am in ENTJ woman with an INTP man, married and been together for sometime. It is perfect. I would urge ENTJ women to find their INTP partner.

6:33 PM  
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3:27 PM  
Blogger Spinnernicholas said...

I am an INTJ man interested in having long intellectual conversations with XNTJ women about any topic. I live about an hour from San Fransisco and would love to talk online or in person

3:45 PM  
Blogger Unknown said...

ENTJ happily married to another ENTJ.

11:22 AM  
Blogger Unknown said...

ENTJ happily married to another ENTJ.

11:23 AM  
Blogger Virginia said...

I am an ENTJ woman married to an INTJ man for 16 years. It is not perfect, but I feel like it couldn't be better than it is. Every time I think of past boyfriends who couldn't spell or had a slight lacking in intelligence I shudder! (Of course I used to think - wow you are shallow, Virginia! but now I just embrace my ENTJness). I have a few close female friends but I have to be careful and can't be myself with most women because they get offended by my blunt, dry, sarcastic sense of humor. What people don't get is that if I like you I will rib you, and I expect you to rib me back, but I guess that's me expecting everyone to be an NT. So glad to find some other ENTJ women out there! We need our own forum! Is there one?

6:57 AM  
Blogger ila railkar said...

ENTJ woman here. It was not easy for my family to accept the way i am. I dont think they have still. But idk really. Its a bit surprising but my bestie is an isfj. She totally gets me. Yet my other friends include an infj, an intp and an entp. Countless times i have been called unladylike but i just give them my epic shrug n move ahead. Unfortunately though my love life sucks

5:49 AM  
Blogger ila railkar said...

ENTJ woman here. It was not easy for my family to accept the way i am. I dont think they have still. But idk really. Its a bit surprising but my bestie is an isfj. She totally gets me. Yet my other friends include an infj, an intp and an entp. Countless times i have been called unladylike but i just give them my epic shrug n move ahead. Unfortunately though my love life sucks

5:50 AM  
Anonymous Sarah said...

Totally agree

3:57 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

When I was in college, I was an ENFP who was in a relationship with an INTJ, who held a candle for me all these years. Of course, he thought I was easy to manipulate through my emotions and loved being in control. Years later, he tracked me down-- I am now an ENTJ and he is an ENTP. He is amazed at how smart I am now -- smarter, more intellectually rigorous than him, even. I have also noticed that he prefers "masculine" women. While I am intellectually strong, I do fit a feminine stereotype in that I take time to look good, dress in a feminine style, and speak with a soft voice. When I am not caught up in work, I am decidedly more laid back and easy going. In fact, I met an ENTP men while in this state. He was a strong, self made man who began courting me after seeing me work on my computer in public. He thought of me as a strong business woman and indicated that he has a hard time relating to women as he simply cannot speak with them. He has also loved my nurturing side. I still have an inner NF side that I let loose when we are together and which he loves. Now that I am more deeply involved in work, I have come more of a stereotypical ENTJ, which has hurt my relationship as he now considers me demanding, controlling. (He's used to having the control.) Women in my office hate me, with the exception of female bosses, as I am competent, strong, professional while many of them are flighty and unfocused, spending most of their time gossiping, engaging in cat fights and doing their make up. Male bosses love me and defend me against the deluge of female attacks I receive on a routine basis. In the meantime, my ENTJness has driven away my boyfriend. He dumped me on Christmas. Didn't even have the nerve to tell me in person. Just didn't show up after a year of dating me and hasnt' returned any phone calls. On our last date he surprised me by showing up anyway to take me out even after we have agreed that I'd use this time to get caught up on work. I went out anyway, but my guilt over letting my work pile up and being irresponsible as a result overwhelmed me that I asked to be taken home. We fought over this, and he abandoned me. I ended up spending Christmas alone and single and am wondering whether I will find anyone else. Of course, my college INTJ, who has become an ENTP, still pines for me, but he doesn't meet my standards now and so I am no longer interested. I do find more success when I am more traditionally feminine --as men cater to this and women find this energy more comfortable to be around. It just is more socially I have my ENTJ in reserve to unleash should I need to do so. People who had considered me unintelligent and/or weak when I am easy going are shocked to discover how intelligent, determined, and combative I can be. I love being an ENTJ, but appreciate my limitations. In my 40s, I am alone, praying for an ENTJ/INTJ/INTP so that I can get married and have children....Even though we have demanding exteriors, we can be very sweet, sensitive, and nurturing inside. :)

10:08 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

(follow up from above) Incidentally, I have an INTP female house mate and I positively HATE her....As an IP she is lazy in every manner of speaking. She uses her NTness to plot and scheme and try to observe so she can exploit others to come on top and ride coattails so she can effortlessly receive money she hasn't worked for. When I was speaking to her in her room once, I saw she owns the book "odd woman out." She has no friends and now tries to marginalize others so she won't be marginalized. She plots and schemes on the sly and then smiles and smirks innocently when her plans unfold. The stuff she does is weird too -- stealing underwear, sneaking into other people's rooms when they are not there (we have found things she has left behind after such entres) because she just has to KNOW what other people are about. I'm pretty sure she's a five on the enneagram. The woman can't sustain a relationship and is sarcastic, controlling, and arrogant -- behavior that is simply unbecoming. She is a master of the "one up" and "put down." She is a really incompetent, aspiring psychopath. (Is it common among be scheming, underhanded behavior hidden behind a veil of innocence?)_Despite having a Master's in computer science, she has had an $8/hour retail job. She is too lazy, incompetent to find a better one. I understand jobs are hard to come by, but the arrogance of this woman is unbelievable. Thinks she is God's gift despite her slovenly approach to life, laziness, and lack of accomplishment. But she KNOWS she is smarter than everyone else..and therefore doesn't have to prove anything. While I understand NTs can be critical, arrogant, and superior, there is a lot to be said about diplomacy and people skills. As someone noted above, EQ is an important as IQ in the professional world and in life.

10:22 AM  
Blogger Unknown said...

I am an ENTJ woman with an INTP husband for 12 years as well. I have learned that I need a partner with confidence and strong will or I become too dominating. I love my INTP husband because of his passion and intelligence. I am dutiful and ambitious, but not as passionate about subjects/ hobbies. I admire his "wealth of information" as well.

6:28 PM  
Blogger Unknown said...

I am an ENTJ woman high school senior and I find it particularly annoying. I am 5'2" and less than 100 pounds so to have this gigantic and abrasive personality is very odd and offputting to most people. The one thing I find interesting about mbti is the introverted feeling types and how I, as well as other et types, interact with them. They seem so ellusive to me because I soooo do not understand them. For me, I try to hide my feelings, why would u want everyone being able to see how you really feel? It's kind of a sign of weakness. And taking the time to make sure everyone is comfortable in a situation? How inefficient is that? Not everyone will agree on anything. There will always be someone uncomfortable. Something else I find extremely irritating is someone not saying what they really think. Don't just go along with something you don't agree with! I find that impossible to fathom. It also seems that I have a predisposition to think that everyone values logic the same way I do. If an argument is explained and given proof to back it up that is all drawn out in a logical way and you say no just because you don't feel like it? People who don't respond to logic or can't follow logic, don't value efficiency or are easily offended generally don't stick around in my life.

8:40 PM  
Blogger Kinga Wysocka said...

I'm ENTJ and my twin brother is INTP in the effect we are almost never talking with each other. Are you still sure that's this would be perfect match?

2:28 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Very true! Personally, everything is subconsciously scheduled. For example, let's say I'm procrastinating. I would then create a schedule using the free time I have at some other point of the day and trading it with the time I'd be using then. Even getting up in the morning is a scheduled routine for me. It's: waffles, water, pills, clothes, teeth, hair. I always know how long a take for each task I do throughout the day and can therefore properly schedule accordingly. On another note (particularly about love life) I really do hate men similar to me. They yield no growth and having a sameness is just so boring to me. I prefer to have someone opposite to me because I have insight from a different perspective and can grow aware of how others see things. Not only that but their different personality traits will cause me to change (for the better if it's the right person) and vice versa. It's why I'm friends with people of all kinds. To be a great leader one must be aware of not just how to grow themselves but others as well. As per these categorization systems, it's best to not take them seriously. As in you should be aware of them, but not let them rule you. You should not let a simple system as this interfere with how you treat others because in the end, no test or system will ever accurately depict who you are. You should find out who you are within yourself (if that makes sense). On a random note based on other comments I've read, I actually have a INTP boyfriend and if you're mentally mature enough, you gain a lot from the relationship. Now I used to be really bad at emotions and would always undermine mine all the time. I'd practically had them numbed out. But once I had him around, I somehow managed to open up and grow as a person.

Okay bye humans!

7:43 PM  
Blogger Daisy Sowah said...

I love you all. Thank you do much for sharing. You know it's rare for ENTJs to cry but i have tears in my eyes right now. I've felt so alone and so strange. For the past 20 years I've felt like there is something crazy wrong with me. Everyone loves me, it's easy to make friends , i could pretty much manipulate ppl if i wanted but i choose not to. But they are so freaked out and amazed and overwhelmed by my bluntness, lack of insecurities, confidence and intelligence. My closest female friend who is ENFP calls me a robot because sharing my feelings and expressing unnecessary emotions are that difficult. Not that i don't have emotions, i just don't see the point in being melodramatic and sharing it with the world so i just keep them to myself and deal with them. While she wants me to tell her everything with all juicy details. I recently dumped my boyfriend cos he cheated on me. I've basically thrown him away and I'm done with him. I can confidently say I've moved on though it's been only 2 weeks. Too me, there's no point crying over spilt milk. I never cried or got in a rage and hurled insults at him i just casually informed him of his newly single status and moved on. So many of my friends are now terming me as cold and ruthless and positively robotic in my reaction. But i don't get it, i see no point in crying over someone who has obviously lost someone as great as i am while i am the victim in the first place (he cheated with two girls).
Speaking of my growing up I've never understood the need to be popular and cool and all the processes and struggles kids go through to achieve that status. I guess they stem from the insecurities that are very rare to me. I've always felt that I'm awesome and better than enough, i don't need anyone's approval to confirm it. That's not to say I'm arrogant , amongs friends I'm the number one listener.i always take other ppls criticisms and take time to contemplate and analyze them. I get along great with ppl because rather enjoying listening to the sound of my own voice like most people, i listen to them and get them to be comfortable and open up with me, like i said easy to manipulate ppl but i don't. 95% of ppl i meet are in awe of me or have never met someone like me. And that's flattering but it also gives you the sense of being strange and alone. I'm 20 but i feel 40.I've always felt ten years older than i really am, even when i was 6 my mum used to complain that i was too intolerant of my mates antics, i called them moronic behavior, and i was 6. I grew up too fast, was always too sensible and put together to be a teenager and never declared love for someone and meant it. But the funny thing is that I'm 5'7 black and slender with a very slim but sexy model body and I'm approached by guys practically everyday with several offers from modelling jobs . Me having a killer fashion sense and dressing well probably helps but despite all this, guys really aren't a priority. A good 80% of my friends are guys but it takes a lot to get me actually interested in pursuing a guy. Plus the dating game and the guy-girl love dance really frustrates me cos i don't get the unnecessary social conventions they come with. I guess i have a long way to go and life and thank God i found this blog so early. Thank you all for sharing your stories and experiences to guide me in life. I would never want to be anyone but myself. As an ENTJ woman, I'm ready to take the world by storm and now I'm a hundred percent aware of myself and who i am( and what i lack) i dare anyone to stop me.

PS: I'm a medical student and i love it, doing great at it. Is it weird for an ENTJ woman to me a medical student?

2:16 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Very true. I am an ENTJ. Tested many times from youth through many corporate jobs. I am so thankful for my three children. So happy I was fortunate enough to be in rekationships long enough to have them. First time my husband was way Alpha ENTJ just like me only worse and as much fun as that was he left me and is now in a long relationshp with a strong but quieter and more submissive younger wife. It was a serioys setback but as we do you just keep moving forward and I have achieved a lot of success in business and have many grateful clients and pleasant charity and social aquaintences but not many close friends. I did remarry many years ago to a very sweet INTP but ladies unless you really do want to be the Alpha all the time thats not the way to go. There are plenty if guys out there that want a mommy/meal ticket and some can be really good at telling you how wonderful you are act like they genuinely want to be the butler and bartender but seriously its not a match. I think we are more balanced when we dont always have to play out of that dominant hand and always be the "tough, rational, smart one". I also read once that a study was done.. maybe in Sweden?...and they determined that the happiest marriages were when there was approximately a 30 point spread in IQ between the wife and the husband. Wife having the higher IQ. to say..when they start nicing you to death You will be confused for a long time and think you are just an awful person and they are just so nice and helpful. That type can be very manipulative. Their whole lifestyle depends on you thinking they are your biggest cheerleader. P can mean no ambition. Since our IQ is not that evolved we are vulnerable to those opportunistic personalities. I hate to sound negative but just felt I should share.. if you wind up bruised from a relationship with another stronger ENTJ dont let yourself sign up as the "only adult" in a rebound relationship. It can take years to correct it and many people will think you are heartless.

9:16 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I meant EQ. We are not as evolved in our Emotional Intelligence

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12:53 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Female ENTJ-A, I am 23 years old this year and have never had a boyfriend. I have had the opportunity to but the guys that have asked me out were too passive and let me walk all over them but I like a guy who can talk, or too dominate and didn't let me into the chitchat, I can't take it unless it's a win-win deal... I'm just praying for an intelligent guy who can be sweet enough to listen and assertive enough to be honest with what's on his mind. People tell me they love my personality because I'm socially friendly, honest in a loving way, and stick to truth over injustice. I feel blessed to be apart of a Christian community that carries different personality types because they challenge me intellectually and emotionally. My childhood friend is a male entj (he's taken) who understands me but we occasionally butt brains at which he is more dominant when I let him (he's earned my respects as a brain), but I came to understand my emotions better thanks to him, although it was very uncomfortable. Now I feel more free after learning to be in touch with my feelings but that doesn't mean I am a feeling type, I just have a better understanding of it now and know how to deal with people who need the attention especially in the line of work I am in... Counseling teenagers and teaching kids the Bible, this has taught me patience and emotional understanding. My church kids love me and I love them... But I have never fallen in love... I'm not interested in dating just a guy because he likes me, which is why the guys who crush on me end up my good friend or just another acquaintance because I feel nothing towards them (even though they are very attractive and tall, but I feel nothing for them). But I will admit the guys that interest me are usually hard to fully grasp, they are the optimist-adventurous type of bold-fun with a Sweet heart for justice and a big intellectual mature brain, but every time I spot one they are taken or see me as a loyal friend (friend zoned)... Patience is my strongest ally after all this. I don't even know what type of guy I just described that I like. I'm not needy or impatient, I have things to do and goals to achieve but I was curious on what type of personality I'm attracted to is all... Also the guys that have flirted with me tend to beat around the bush, they'll tell their friends they like me and I hear about it from them but not the individual, which is just a turn-off... Boldness is sexy but not a creepy-needy boldness, more like a business-romance but with bold-confidence... I won't lie I like tall Asian guys (like Lee Min Ho <3 ) and there are plenty of cute Asians around just depends where you are- plus my Asian girlfriends try to help, even so... I guess we can have a great personality but to each their own :)

5:59 AM  
Blogger Unknown said...

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9:05 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

OMG, this page is awesome! I took the Myers Briggs test and discovered I'm an ENTJ, which makes complete sense. I am so ambitious that it drives me insane at times. I'm headstrong and know what I want. I am currently divorcing an ISFJ, I don't know how we got along for the last 8 years, but the last 2-3 years have been a nightmare, and now I know why. He said that for so long he let me be in control, and then when he started standing up to me and opposing all of my views, judging me, and telling me he hated my personality, it went to shit! I will never do that again and now know that I need a stringer man who will debate with me from the start and respect my opinions and views. I now have a new way of dating, and it starts with asking what your type is, and if we aren't shown to be compatible, I pass.

5:17 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

ENTJ female here. I major in hard science, so surrounded by NT types people, which make my life a lot easier. Yeah I am definitely the bossy type, and I hate it when people don't listen. I get attracted by INTJs and INTPs. I think I am quite popular among guys, but it is very hard for me to maintain a friendship with girls in general (but I do not get to meet many girls, either). I can enjoy alone time, though, quite independent I would say. I am quite good when dealing with money as well.

I am still very young (in my 20s). Recently I find an INTP quite attractive, and it is obvious that he has crushes on me. I am not very sure about what to do next.

2:08 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

to the infp sharing a story about your entj wife divorcing you, and also to the entj woman commenting on his story,

the entj wife is just a jerk, no excuses.

you, entj woman, are delusional. (you said offending an entj woman is impossible?) it's not a matter of personality, sorry to burst your bubble. it's a matter of heart, of love, of charity. a marriage is a beautiful relationship for its continuous falling in care and unconditional love, and thus falling out of marital love simply means you're just immature, selfish, and also an idiot. if you're married, you're married. love before marriage and LEARN to CONTINUE loving your partner even more. except if your partner is abusive. now that's just stockholm syndrome.

you infp husband, I'm very sorry to hear about your divorce...
even if you guys went through with the divorce in the end, please...continue loving her...dont forget her...and forgive her. even if you guys can't be together, even if it is painful, even if it hurts, there are more lovelier things in life...but your life isn't going to become sweet and joyful if you hate her, scarred by her....what she did was wrong. a divorce isn't a way out. it was a wrong turn. but what's done is done. it's okay! life to your fullest now, by forgiving her...and continue to hope that she gets to be a better woman...

i just thought i'd share what i think! i hope the best for you, infp husband, entj wife, and also the entj woman commenting.
a note from an ENTJ woman AS WELL. (we can be sweet if needs to be too! versatility is a plus u kno)

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